the judge is not gonna say, "what's your diagnosis, mr. smith? you broke the law," all right? it's not gonna go down that way. you can read up on the literature a whole lot and what you're gonna see is a whole lot of theories about why this is happening and very little talk about what to do about it. >> yeah, it's true. >> you can read for weeks and not come across something that says, "tonight, when this kid does this, you do this." but that's what i do for you in the total transformation program. >> it wasn't a matter of a.d.h.d. it wasn't a matter of her focusing ability and things like that. it was just a matter of getting herself under control, learning how to deal with feelings and problem-solving. she couldn't think a problem from one end to the next and i didn't know that at the time, but i do now, and it's certainly been a breakthrough for us. >> so, as a parent you have to decide is that kid gonna control you, or is he gonna learn how to control his own behavior? in the total transformation program, i show you how to teach that kid to control his own behavior. and it's very simple.